My first trip overseas ever was to be a bridesmaid in a wedding in Cancun. How exciting right?! I mean, who wouldn’t want to be a part of such a moment? I was extremely excited, but nervous all at the same time. I probably felt one more than the other, but nonetheless the two feelings co-existed fighting each other.
As I was preparing for my travels I began to hear so many stories. Family and friends would share their personal experiences, good and bad. My close family (yes I’m talking to you, Mom and Dad) chose to express their fears of travel which put me on edge especially when I left for the airport.
Solo travel wasn’t on my radar before this opportunity. I mean I had been terrorized by the television shows, movies, and stories that talked about the disasters women faced while travelling solo.
They were either taken and sold or taken and raped, to put it bluntly. Not saying that it doesn’t happen, but now thinking back, my mind shouldn’t have settled on that for a good portion of my trip.
When I touched down in Cancun, I was extremely attentive and observant - you could almost say paranoid. I took the safest looking taxi I could find to the hotel we stayed for one night before moving to the wedding resort. I got to my room and genuinely stayed there until a fellow bridesmaid came later that night. And even that, I wasn’t too sure if that was her knocking on my door - you could never be too sure! And if you were wondering, no, I didn’t have anything to eat since I left that morning and chose to starve until my roommate arrived. Yes, I know - how pitiful.
Anyway, the next day, we made our way over to the resort and I felt much more comfortable knowing that I was surrounded by familiar people. But I was disappointed in myself for not taking the opportunity to explore what else Cancun had to offer. My little behind just stayed right there at the resort. Other wedding guests invited me out to check out different things outside of the resort but I allowed fear to stop me. After that experience, I made sure not to let my “Taken” fears take over me the second time I traveled solo. I’ll share that experience another time.
Overall, I still managed to enjoy my time on the resort in Cancun. It certainly wasn’t a hard task, especially because it was an all inclusive resort, bomb food and I was with the most fantastic people (the bride paid me to say that - love you girl!).